Why do spirits stay on earth, when many religions tell of a “heaven” where everything is better than life on earth, containing more beauty than anyone can imagine. It is difficult to answer this question for every spirit who chooses, whether they are aware of it or not, to stay on earth. However, there are reasons that are common. The major reason is that the spirit is too shy or uncomfortable to move on.
Imagine living in your current home from the day you had been born. Assuming that you like your current home, and the family or roommates you live with, imagine suddenly having a notice to leave. Most would be struck in the heart at the thought of having to leave. This is what happens to a spirit who does not want to leave this earth. They have grown to call it their home and they are not ready to leave. The next scenario is similar to this, and that is that they feel like they need to complete something in their life.
What they feel like they need to finish are as unique as snowflakes. No two reasons are the same. In their life, these may have been the family member who held everyone up with common thoughts such as “Did I leave the stove on?” “I can’t remember whether I locked all the window and doors.” “I think I left the curling iron on.” The spirit may truly want to move on, but these thought plague their mind, preventing themselves from moving on, in fear of these thoughts being realities. It is a hard struggle for the spirit to accept that they may not be able to protect those who they left behind, and move on. These spirits are one of the hardest to help move on. The next reason is that they are too stubborn to leave.
These are normally the spirits who during their life held onto a pair of old boots or shoes because they were still wearable, despite the fact they were falling apart. The shoe would have to wear into pieces, or be secretly thrown out by someone in the family. They feel that this is their life, even though they may have passed away, and they can still live it how they want, when they want, and where they want. When they are ready to cross over, they will, but no one will tell them when that time will be. The next scenario is when the spirit doesn’t know they have passed.
The event that caused them to pass on was either so subtle they did not know they passed, or so traumatic they blocked it out from their memory. The best way to describe this is waking up to an empty house. Everything is still the same setting. Where clothes had been left the night before are still in a pile in the same spot. The dishes are still in the sink. But no one is here. An eternal silence that can only be broken until someone brings them to the realization that they are dead, or the figure it out on their own. Until they do, they may walk the same house or place waiting for someone to show up. The last popular scenario is simply the fear of where they may go.
The idea of leaving this earth and embarking on a journey to a completely new place, where every law of science is discarded scares some. For others, it is an exciting new adventure that can only lead to new discoveries and thrills. Others hold on to what they have learned on earth, and hold an iron grip to it. They don’t accept change well. These are the spirits that when living, they will never change a single room in their house. The paint, wallpaper, and furniture setup will stay the same as if frozen in time.
The reason for a spirit to stay behind varies from spirit to spirit. However, the reasons seem to normally fall into one of these five categories. However, the reason may not. One of the most difficult things about being a psychic is trying to pinpoint why they have not moved on, and help them cope to move on. I personally have not tried before. In my opinion, it would be like trying to force someone into therapy. You cannot do that to a spirit. They have to choose to appear to you, asking for help. I have not had that happen yet, but if it does it will be an experience I will gladly have, and write about.